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Friendship is a golden thread woven by two friends around themselves to create a different world of their own, all by themselves. They distinguish their world from the rest of the world by their immense love for each other.
Friendship can never be one sided, because if it is so, then one of the two is not a friend but a prisoner in the world so created by the other one who calls himself/herself as friend. Such friendships never last longer! Because the so called prisoner either breaks open the chains and go away or get pressurized under the so called friendship of the so called friend and gets frustrated and rebels!
In both the cases, I personally feel that the so-called friend is the one at fault (Obviously) and he is also the one who has to lose. Because he/she (whoever concerned) loses a ‘buddy’. He/She loses a person on whom he/She had showered all the love possessed by him/her.
Unfortunately, the love showered was like nailing the other person who was not interested.
So! The best way is to win over the person first, know what his/her wish is, whether the person is really interested in friendship! If no, then…
Do not lose hope; if you want a friend then you deserve that person.
Sooner or later, the seed of friendship will be sowed in the heart of that person and he would enjoy being your friend.
The world created, then, would be the most powerful and beautiful one, found on this earth.
Friendship is not measured by the time you were friends, it depends on how much you trust each other. It depends on immense affection towards each other.
This is why, often, friendships as old as many years are, less deep and true than those just born!
Friendship is an art, not known to all. Know it and you will be highly blessed.
Thus, this is one of the most important rule of friendship .It is the best way to start a lifelong friendship :
“Never impose your friendship on your so called friend!”

How To Handle Criticism?

Nobody likes to be criticized, but for some, harsh criticism can feel like a real body blow. Criticism, whether warranted or not, can ruin your entire day and you may even have found your mind returning to it again and again. Poorly handled, criticism can damage your confidence and cause self-doubt.
Have you ever noticed that some people let criticism slide off them like water off a duck's back? Nothing seems to get them down. But how do they do it? It is easy to make throwaway assumptions such as "oh, they must have better self esteem than me", but that is really no explanation at all.

Some additional ideas to think about:

* Consider whether you need to make some personal changes.
* Say "stop" to yourself when negative self-talk starts.
* View the situation as a stepping-stone instead of a brick wall.
* Learn the lesson and move on. Never dwell on criticism.
* Don't hold grudges. They only hurt you, not the other person.

These steps will help you disassociate from the pain of the criticism and deal with the situation as a professional.

When You Do The Criticizing

1. Praise others regularly. If others know that you respect them and their work, they will be more receptive to your requests for change and improvement.

2. Be positive. Avoid saying, "You didn't mail the package when I told you to." Say, "The top priority package wasn't mailed on time." Focus on future improvements, not past failures.

3. Be concrete. Name the specific area in which improvement is needed and give suggestions about how the improvements should or must be made.

4. Avoid attacking a person's characteristics or personality. State only what specific incident or situation needs adjustment and how that adjustment should be made. Avoid the pronoun you whenever possible. Focus on the situation and how it can be improved in the future.

5. Be considerate. Choose an appropriate time and place for criticism. Do not criticize in front of others. Avoid criticizing on the person's birthday, just before vacation or the end of the workday, or when the person isn't feeling well.

All people make mistakes; criticism is one way to learn from them. These guidelines also work in personal relationships.


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